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Where there’s a will, there’s a way!

In our conversation with Kaitlin this week, she shared her journey with Moms Making Six Figures and shed some light on how her attitude of “where there’s a will, there’s a way” can truly be all it takes to make a major career and a lifestyle change. We hope you enjoy her story as much as we did!

Was a career as an entrepreneur something you had always wanted? How did MMSF come into the picture?

While growing up, I remember my mom had a shirt she would wear that read, “Every mom is a working mom.” It really must have left an impression on me, because I believe that phrase really shaped the course of my life. She was a stay at home mom to the four of us kids. She was also a registered nurse (and still is) yet chose to be home with us. It was her hard-working example that taught me no matter what I decided to do with my life, even if that meant staying home and raising kids, to never let the label “just a mom” make me feel like it was any less important of a calling than any other job title.

My high school sweetheart, Mike, and I got married at an early age and then we put starting a family on hold until we both finished college. A few months before graduating with my BSN and passing my boards, we became pregnant with our first child and my priorities shifted. No longer did I desire to chase the dream of working outside the home as a nurse because I had just been given the dream job of being someone’s mommy. So, with that we just said, “where there’s a will, there’s a way.”

Fast forward almost 5 years to 2017 – we had 4 boys, under the age of 4. Along with the decision for me to stay home with the kids, we also wanted to figure out a way for me to supplement our income and take the pressure off Mike since our family had grown quite a bit. I have little spare time as it is, being the mom to four amazing (and very active) boys, as well as homeschooling them and truthfully, I have never had the desire to sell anything, so I ruled out any and all business ventures having to do with carrying inventories or being a “distributor” of any sort. I had heard about Moms Making Six Figures, so I reached out and someone from that group, who also happens to go to the church we attend, shared with me how she was able to make a huge financial impact in her family’s finances without having to work for anyone else or sell anything. She was able to work from the soccer field while her kids played, and she could schedule her work around her family, rather than her family around her work. This made sense. This is what our family needed. It has been a year since I partnered with Moms Making Six Figures and the impact it has made on our family and the ability to help others do the same has been an incredible blessing to say the least.

When you started your journey with MMSF, who was your biggest support system?

It was my husband, Mike, who encouraged me to reach out initially and it has been him all along that continues to encourage me on a daily basis. He told me that he noticed a difference in me when I partnered with MMSF, like something had awakened in me. I now have the drive to not only be the best mom for our boys, but also to help others find a way to do the same thing.

We all know that being a mompreneur can be one of the most challenging and most rewarding jobs out there, but everyone needs a little R&R at some point. How do you recharge so you can keep being a fantastic mom, wife, and boss lady?

Being a busy mama, wife, and having my own business means that the little time I get to myself is few and far between. When I do get that time, I try to do something outdoors. We live on a small farm in Southern California, so everything that comes with taking care of the land and animals has become a passion of mine. Being raised as a city girl, I never thought I would say that milking a goat is relaxing and enjoyable, as well as learning the art of cheesemaking, and gardening. Along with homesteading, I have also made it a point to learn how to operate every power tool on our property should I need to help fix a fence, repair a roof, or construct raised garden beds. I want to be a living example for my boys that you can do anything you set your mind to. Other than that, if I’m not covered in soil or sawdust, I also enjoy going on weekly dates with my boyfriend (who also happens to be my husband – I still see him as that high schooler I fell in love with over 15 years ago), and hosting family dinners with our extended family at our ranch.


 

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5 Secrets to Loving Your Children More (In Their Eyes)

You might consider yourself a genuinely caring mother, but do your kids think so?

As a mother, chances are you constantly worry about the safety and overall wellbeing of your children – you would go to the ends of the earth for them. Motherhood isn’t easy, but at the end of the day it’s a beautiful thing and well worth all the hardship that comes with it – because you love your children. And while you may think that the love you have for your kids is obvious, you may not be communicating it to them as well as you think.

Oftentimes, the way that we perceive ourselves as parents versus how our kids perceive us is completely different. Part of loving our children is knowing what love means to them. Are you speaking their language when it comes to love and affection? Read on for 5 secrets to communicating your love in ways that your children will understand.

Becoming More in Tune with Your Children’s Emotional Needs

1. Get to Know Your Child

How well do you really know your child? Part of being a parent is accepting the fact that whether you like it or not, there are just some things your child will never tell you, even if you have a great relationship with them. How many times have you heard the response, “Fine” after asking them how their day was at school? As mothers, we may get so tied up in trying to take care of our children that we lose focus on the details of their lives.

Take some time each day to sit down with them and have an engaging chat. You could ask them questions such as:
• What’s your favorite thing to do?
• What makes you happy?
• What scares you the most?
• What do look for in a friend?

You may think that you can predict their answers, but they just might surprise you. This simple exercise can help you discover things about your child that you probably didn’t know. The more you know about them, the more you’ll understand them (and let’s face it, we don’t always understand our children). This in turn will help you express your love in ways that they’re most receptive to.

2. Encourage Self-Expression

Meltdowns can be difficult to deal with, but you should welcome them nonetheless. Your child needs to learn to express their emotions; if left unprocessed, these raw feelings could begin to drive their behavior in unhealthy ways.

Although meltdowns are tough to stomach for any parent, be patient and try to discover the fear (or other emotions) that lies behind the anger. In time, your child will know that they can trust you with their emotions and will feel closer to you as a result. Just remember to control how you express your own emotions in front of your child – the way you react could dictate whether they feel comfortable coming to you with problems or fears in the future. Remember, you can always go scream into a pillow or cry a few tears later in solitude.

3. Pay Attention to How You Speak

Oftentimes, children pay more attention to how you say something instead of what you’re actually saying. As a mother, your words can have a lifelong effect on your children’s feelings and actions – whether you are disciplining, giving advice, or simply having a spontaneous chat.

Your message may be great, but your child may misinterpret it or might not hear it at all if your delivery is off. Yelling, snapping at them, or even making a disgusted, angry, or disappointed face might have a significant negative impact on them. If your child shares something upsetting with you – say they got a ‘D’ on their math test – curb your immediate reaction and think about how you want to respond first. Try to read their emotions to gauge how they’re feeling, and allow that to guide your response. If they already seem upset and frustrated by their poor grade, try to validate their feelings of frustration and focus on a solution instead of dwelling on their poor performance.

Rather than yell at your child or immediately punish them – which will likely trigger them to shut down emotionally, acknowledge their poor performance but emphasize the fact that you know that they would like to do better. This approach will communicate that you care about them, that you’re on their team, and you’ll find a solution together. Remember, when you know your child and take the time to read their cues, you’ll become better at communicating with them in a way that they will understand and that they will perceive as love.

4. Support and Empathy

Part of loving your children is being emotionally supportive, which involves different practices. These include:
• Listening with intent. Pay attention and give your child time when he or she is expressing their emotions or telling you a story. This shows respect for their thoughts and feelings and boosts their confidence.
• Being consistent. If you say you’ll do something, follow through. If you have a routine with your child, stick to that routine. Is Thursday night movie night? Put it in your calendar and don’t schedule anything else for Thursday evenings. Did you say you’d make it to their soccer game on Saturday? Make it a priority to show up. This helps your child know that they can count on you.

As an adult, have you ever had a conversation with a loved one that made you wish that they could see things from your point of view or understand your feelings? Essentially, you’re asking for empathy. Your children require the same of you.

5. Show Up

Children need to know that they’re a priority. Whether you’re working in the corporate world or a work-at-home mom, one of the most important things you can do for your children is to show up. The basketball games, school plays, and even one-on-one quality time – if your children remember nothing else, they will definitely remember that you were there for them. You may not be able to do it every time, but don’t make the mistake of being half-present throughout their childhood – your absence is one trend that they’re sure to take note of.

Loving Your Children Through Their Eyes

Everyone gives, receives, and recognizes love in different ways – especially children. Take the time to get to know and understand your children. They will notice. Who knows, they might just surprise you in the best way.