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Change is Neutral: Learn to Pivot to Advance in Your Profession

Inspired by this week’s Moms Making Six Figures Podcast with Alexandra Lundgren, a Financial Advisor with a wealth of knowledge and experience in the financial sector, who believes that change is both constant and out of our control.  What we can control is the perspective of change we bring into the boardroom, and rather than fear it, utilize it to our benefit.


Although change is constant, it doesn’t change the fact that for many of us, it is at the center of most of our difficult decisions and circumstances as largely controlled and stable adults.  And if the last year-and-a-half of being through the pandemic wringer has taught us anything, it’s that our work environment is no longer immune to sweeping change.  We used to fear mergers and acquisitions, now we’re facing a near literal collapse of the corporate ladder leaving employees in the limbo of what Sheryl Sandberg, Facebook’s COO, now calls a “jungle gym”.  Just as we learned to embrace and utilize change to our benefit in our personal life, we must bolster ourselves to remain both competitive and relevant in today’s work culture. Ultimately, our ability (or inability) to adapt determines our ability to advance.


  1. Standing Still in Uncertainty

Whenever a change occurs, we are faced with unfamiliar challenges causing us to feel anxious, apprehensive, and altogether uprooted.  Rather than swimming in the sea of unknowns, it is imperative that we take hold of what we do have control over—our perspective.  Worldwide recruiting experts, HAYS, suggests asking yourself the following questions:

  • Is your interpretation of the change you are facing rational, objective and based purely on the facts?
  • Can you challenge your interpretation with an opposing argument?
  • If so, what’s the alternative perspective of this situation?

If you can get to eye of the storm and pinpoint where your angst about the change is coming from, you are more apt to change your mindset, and begin taking the other steps necessary to move forward toward a productive outcome.

  1. Connection Through Discord

Whether you’re the instigator of change, or on the unenlightened receiving end of a structure’s upending, it is important for you and your employees to feel like you have connection over shared concerns and fostered relationships.  Forbes suggests granting space for personal conversations to process the stress and “adapt more quickly to change”.

  1. Speak Up! Communicate and Ask Questions

A major contributing factor to what the American Psychological Association has discovered about “organizational changes such as restructuring or new leadership [that] can lead to employees who overly stressed, have less trust in their employers, and have a greater desire to find new jobs” is the onslaught of secondary information.  Without directly communicating with those behind the change, it is easy to listen to the most trusted voice in the room—even if that trusted voice is speaking from a place of second hand information.  Instead, communicate your concerns to both your co-workers and supervisors, and ask specific and vague questions to address all of the “what if’s” bombarding you.  Be proactive in seeking out first hand knowledge to subdue your suspicions and skepticism.

  1. Resistance is Futile! (And Detrimental)

We cause ourselves more grief than is necessary in our clinging to  “the way things were” or “the way things have always been” by activating our Avoidance Coping powers.  The truth is that avoiding the change won’t help us cope at all because the change is occurring whether or not we embrace it.  Instead, and in the hopes of using the change to our benefit, we must practice active coping by tackling the problem head-on, “Recognizing and accepting change is one of the first steps toward managing it.”

  1. Change Through the Lens of a Growth Mindset

In order to harness change and its energy, we must change our perspective toward it.  When we take hold of our negative thoughts toward change and confront those thoughts with reality and positivity as a potential for growth, we begin to reframe our view.  We determine where our fears are stemming from, and we address them with a simply cost/benefit analysis.  For example, “additional responsibilities and the opportunity to manage your workload more independent could help to advance your career.”


Change is not the enemy, but our resistance to it certainly is.  Change becomes a direct reflection and amplifier of our greatest fears and insecurities; let’s utilize this opportunity to stand firmly grounded in the known and to embrace the opportunity of the unknown. No one achieved 6-figures by shutting the door on change, instead they answered it and found opportunity on the other side.

Goals joy Resilience

Help others achieve their goals and you will achieve yours!

Meet Margaret! Talking with her this week reminded us yet again the reasons we love our team and our job. Margaret left her job in the nursing field to pursue a career with Moms Making Six Figures in hopes of finding some time and financial freedom. Not only has she achieved more flexibility in her life, but she also helps other women do the same! Read on to learn more about the unique aspects of her job along with how her positive attitude and mental toughness helps her to succeed!

How would you describe your job?

In my job with Moms Making Six Figures, I listen to people, discover their needs, and find a way to meet those needs. My job is to help people achieve their goals! I mentor, coach and inspire others!

I truly love reconnecting with old friends, while at the same time making new friends! People really energize me; I love being around them, especially when they are positive! Helping others has always been dear to my heart, which I formally did working as a registered nurse for 17 years. Whether it is nursing or Moms Making Six Figures, at the end of day, I look for the satisfaction that I helped change someone’s life.

What is the most unique aspect of your business?

The ability to structure my own hours, work at my own pace and on my own time. I always dreamed of having a job where I did not have to clock in and out, and where I had control of my time. I never thought there was such a job.

In nursing, the 12 hour shifts at the hospital were far from ideal. It took a toll on me working every other weekend without knowing when I would be available to spend time with my friends and family. As my work hours changed monthly, it affected my opportunities to consistently attend and volunteer at my church, which is important to me.

When going into home health I expected to have more control of my time. Sadly, it was even worse because I was called in to work almost every day. Patients asked for me specifically and I felt guilty declining when the agency was in a pinch and needed my help. The guilt was greater when a patient needed care and no nurse was willing to go for the visit. I found myself working almost all hours of the day. When I was not seeing patients, I was doing paperwork. It got so challenging that I started working as late as 3:00am and starting work again at 8:00am. Many health issues resulted from me burning the candle at both ends.

Now that I have the privilege to make my own hours, I can take time off whenever it’s needed and prioritize what is important to me. Recently, my ability to take time off allowed me to take a 3-week vacation to Europe with my husband without any worry or stress!  We travelled to 6 different cities in Europe (Amsterdam, Paris, Venice, Florence, Rome and Madrid). A highlight was celebrating our 9th wedding anniversary climbing the Eiffel Tower in Paris!  This was a bucket list item for me!  It had been so many years since I could truly rest on a vacation with absolutely no stress (except for my husband giving me looks when I took too many pictures).  It was amazing!  When I worked as a nurse it was very difficult to take a vacation. Even during the time off, I was unable to relax.

How do you push through those days when working is the last thing on the planet you want to do?

No question that these days happen, just like at any other job or business. On the days I don’t feel like working I remember what this job has done for me, such as resolving long-term medical challenges. I have also reminded myself of all the people I have helped because of my business. On the challenging days, I call those I have assisted to hear their stories of how their lives have been enhanced, whether it be improved health, a safer environment for their family, or a better financial situation! This encourages me and reminds me why I chose this job and inspires me to look for more people to help.

Another way I push through these days is by keeping a consistent routine.  I structure my work schedule every week and plan when I will work and when I take my days off. At other jobs, I certainly went to work regardless of how I felt. During my days as a nurse I went in to work even when I was sick.

At other jobs, people will go to work regardless of how they feel. Typical employees have a boss to answer to and do not want to risk losing their job. Although the uniqueness of my job at Moms Making Six Figures does not have these demanding factors, it is of utmost necessity to stay consistent in our work regardless of our feelings. The good news is there have been significantly fewer days like that with Moms Making Six Figures, compared to my past employment!

Children problem-solving Resilience

Teaching Our Kids Resilience: The Difference Between Being Good vs. Getting Better

Sometimes you hear about resilient kids who take on difficult tasks and don’t give up until they’ve accomplished what they set out to do. Other kids give up and throw tantrums at the simplest of things. While age is a factor, there comes a time when kids need to hold their own. But what makes some children keep going and others give up?

It’s resilience. The kids that face difficult tasks and come out successful are problem solvers. They face tough situations head-on and figure out the best solution. Despite what you may think, it’s not all about intelligence. According to Psychology Today, one’s IQ says nothing about how we face difficulties in our lives.

So, if you’re sitting there thinking, “I wish my kids were resilient!” the good news is, resilience can be taught. You would actually be doing them a favor: teaching children to problem solve in a healthy way from a young age can go a long way. It’s an important life skill, after all. Plus. It will make everyone’s lives easier.

Teaching Our Kids Resilience

The goal here is to get our kids to strive to be better, rather than be good. What’s the difference? Being good at something only shows how smart you are, whereas getting better is about developing your skills. According to Psychology Today, kids who strive to get better are less likely to suffer from depression and anxiety than the kids who simply aim for being good. They are more likely to see a bad grade as motivation to try harder, rather than resign to the fact that they are “not good at” a particular subject.

So, how can we teach our kids this all-important life skill? These tips will get you started:

1. Talk About Challenges Before they Happen

We may not be able to predict every single trial our children will face, but there are a few we can prepare them for. Perhaps your child is moving to a new school; be sure to explain to them that it’s an opportunity for them to build a new skill, like making new friends. Avoid saying things like, “I’m sure everyone will love you.” Although you mean well, statements like that can be misleading.

2. Don’t Give in to Everything

As moms, we can be overprotective at times (okay, all the time!); but by doing so, we aren’t giving our kids a chance to develop their problem-solving abilities. Giving guidance is great, but sometimes we have to let them face relatively tough situations on their own—and this applies to children of all ages. Mommy won’t always be there to solve all their problems.

If a kid is trying to take a toy away from your child in the sandbox, wait a minute before intervening and see how they handle it on their own.

3. Encourage Age-Appropriate Risk

Wait, what? I’m not denying that part of our job as parents is to keep our children safe; but some measured risk can be a good thing. Age-appropriate risks help teach our kids life skills and allow them to discover their limits. Children can then apply what they learn as they grow older.

4. Giving Feedback

The whole point is for your child to learn, and constructive feedback is always a good thing. Focus on how they can improve, but make sure not to compare them to anyone else. They should strive to do better than they did the previous time—to compete against themselves, rather than competing against others.

For example, if your son didn’t do well on a test, shift his focus to what he can do to improve his own grade, rather than what he can do to be the best in the entire class. If he got a ‘C’ on the last test, a realistic goal would be to shoot for a ‘B’ on the next one, instead of pressuring him to get an ‘A+’ and outperform all of his classmates.

Your feedback should emphasize that your child has the ability to change. You might explain to your child that, in order to improve at their chosen discipline, they could practice harder and more often.

Give suggestions, but don’t provide all the answers. Ask questions that will challenge them to think for themselves, and make sure to be encouraging and positive.

It All Comes Down to Balance

For parents, the question becomes to what extent you should let them discover things on their own rather than giving instruction.

Think “guided tough love.”

Start with letting go of the little things and gradually build from there. You can even give examples from your own life. Perhaps you weren’t good at swimming, but with hard work and practice you became better at it—and eventually joined the water polo team. Examples of when you gave up before you should have are also great.

We can all agree that resilience is a skill that helps carry us through our not-so-perfect lives. The sooner you start teaching your kids, the better their problem-solving skills will become as they get older.