In our conversation with Kaitlin this week, she shared her journey with Moms Making Six Figures and shed some light on how her attitude of “where there’s a will, there’s a way” can truly be all it takes to make a major career and a lifestyle change. We hope you enjoy her story as much as we did! Read More!
Another great week, another great story coming your way! We recently chatted with Stacy, who gave us the inside scoop on how she overcomes any obstacle and she gives us her reasons for building a career with Moms Making Six Figures! Read More!
This week, we are talking with Courtney Sewell. She is a mom of three and a Moms Making Six Figures business partner with a serious passion for health and wellness. Courtney uses her social media platforms to highlight popular wellness topics and has found the balance between being a full-time mom and an entrepreneur. Read More!
My daughters are heading into kindergarten and 3rd grade next month and I just opened their classroom supply list – WOW, it’s a long one! I don’t even remember having a backpack in kindergarten, yet she will be showing up with 24 “Ticonderoga Wood-Cased #2 yellow pencils” (because any old #2 pencils just won’t do), 2 boxes of 16 large washable crayons, 2 boxes of 24 small crayons, 4 pink erasers, 4 large glue sticks, 1 box of Kleenex, 2 containers of disinfectant wipes, 1 spiral notebook, 1 pair of blunt scissors, 1 nap mat, 1 blanket, 1 change of clothes, 1 box of sight words, and a partridge in a pear tree…oh wait, no partridge, got a little carried away, but you get the idea. And that’s just for the kindergartener! I’ll spare you the 3rd grade list, as it’s even longer. Don’t get me wrong, I appreciate our school and have a great love for our teachers, but it’s time to tackle the list and ensure the best possible deals!
I’m a frugal momma, and that’s just supplies, so let’s get started
Don’t leave home, Amazon Prime day might be long gone but the competition isn’t
Economists have stated that Amazon Prime day actually surpassed 2016’s Black Friday and Cyber Monday, which is forcing many stores like Staples, Office Max, and Office Depot to offer deeper discounts and free shipping when you spend over a certain amount to remain competitive. This year I picked up spiral notebooks from Staples online for as low as 19 cents and boxes of crayons for 50 cents – for that price you might want to add a few extras and save for next year by keeping a bin with a small inventory of school supplies. I sat at the computer and tackled both class lists in under 30 minutes with Staples.com. Save time, save money, avoid the impulse spending and the stress of finding a parking spot – online shopping for the win!
Avoid the trendy gear
Disney’s Descendants has been running rampant through our house this summer, but I just wouldn’t give in to the Evie and Mal matching backpack and lunch box. Once the next best thing comes along, my girls will be begging for an upgrade, which will only result in wasted cash. Amazon has some great deals on backpacks with many options to choose from. Once again, why leave home!
Old Navy and Kohl’s have become my go-to stores for back to school clothes of solid quality and price. Great coupons and sales are readily available whether your kiddos are in uniforms or create their own look. And if you see an item you bought in the last 14 days on sale later, you can get the difference refunded with a receipt only. Kohl’s offers a very generous return policy.
Plan your lunches based on weekly grocery circulars
Check your weekly grocery circulars for the best prices on veggies and produce. Even organic options can be found on sale.
The Container Store offers lunch-time essentials containers for as low as $5.99 (Colorful Klip-It Lunch Cube-to-Go – https://www.containerstore.com/s/kitchen/colorful-klip-it-lunch-cube-to-go/1d?productId=10025083) that can be reused all year long. At that price, you may want to pick up two sets per kid to avoid the stress of washing them nightly.
On to another school year we go moms, we’re almost there – hang in there as you get through these last weeks of summer!
When it comes to social media, protecting your kids can be a daunting task.
While you want your kids to be able to communicate and have access to a wealth of information through social media, you probably also want to protect them from the downsides of social media—cyber bullying, access to inappropriate content, and vulnerability to criminal activity.
And even if you think you’re pretty good at keeping tabs on your children’s online activity, according to Guard Child, 67% of teens know how to hide their online activity from their parents. I know, it’s pretty scary, right?
So, what can you do to ensure that your children aren’t hiding what they do online and potentially putting themselves at risk?
Here are some useful tips that I use with my daughters.
Set Age and Time Limits
No child needs to be on social media all the time—that’s just asking for trouble.
In fact, according to the American Academy of Pediatrics, children younger than 18 months shouldn’t use media of any kind—with the exception of video chatting platforms such as Skype or FaceTime to connect with grandparents, of course!
Some social networking sites even have stipulated age limits. For example, did you know that anyone under the age of 13 isn’t allowed to have a Facebook account? Do your homework to find out which sites are age appropriate for your kids and keep them off the ones that aren’t intended for their age group.
Take it a step further and set time limits for their online activity. Have you ever thought, “I’ll just catch up on Facebook for 10 minutes,” and then found yourself online an hour later? With kids’ curiosity, it’s easy for them to get caught up checking things on the web. Setting time limits will reduce the risk of your children getting pulled into things they shouldn’t be doing in the first place.
Supervise and Get Full Access
In this day and age, it’s not nosy to have access to your children’s social media accounts—it’s smart.
Ensure that you have the correct passwords for your children’s accounts. There are unique benefits to being able to view their accounts from their perspective, rather than just checking on their profile through your own account. By doing random check-ins you can find out who your children are following, what content they’re seeing on their personalized feeds, and who they’re communicating with privately.
You may be able to put a stop to cyber-bullying by checking for any mistreatment of or by your children. You can also keep your children from falling victim to social media predators who actively seek out young children.
As your kids get older and become more aware of online threats, you may not need to check their accounts as often. However, especially with young kids, frequent monitoring is a smart tactic to keep them safe.
Encourage Private Accounts
Your kids don’t need to share their information with the entire world. So, ensure that your children’s social media accounts are set to private, not public.
Do this by checking their privacy settings on individual social media platforms. This will hide your kid’s information from strangers on the internet, even pictures or posts that they’re tagged in by other people.
Privacy settings are not foolproof, however, so you may want to install filtering software on your web browser that will protect your children—and your device—from various invasive viruses and spyware.
Let Your Children Know What to Share
Children, in their naivety, usually see nothing wrong with sharing every detail of their lives—from what they’re wearing and eating to their location and activities at any given time.
However, sharing information such as your location or personal details online gives other people a lot of access to you. Depending on who sees this information, it can actually put your safety at risk—no matter your age. Even Kim Kardashian was a victim of criminals who targeted her using information from her Instagram account to determine her location and activities.
Make sure to monitor the pictures, posts, and location tags your children share to see if they’re appropriate and set clear rules about what information they can and cannot share online.
Keep the Conversation Going
Before establishing rules about social media for your kids, it’s important to have a frank conversation with them about the dangers of the online world and why you’re setting rules in the first place. An honest and open conversation will help them understand why you’re concerned and will better equip them to handle things without you.
Just as you would teach your kids about dangers in the real world, teach them about the dangers of social media.
Remember that the rules you establish should work for you and your family. Consider the age and maturity of your children—what you enforce with a 12-year-old will likely be very different from what you would with a 16-year-old. As they mature you may have to revisit and adjust the boundaries you’ve set for them.
No matter their age, it’s important to encourage your children to be open with you about what goes on with their social media, both the good and the bad. Honestly, it’s difficult to monitor every single thing they do online, so the more comfortable they feel being open with you, the more easily you can protect them from online dangers.
Let’s face it, the stereotypical step-parent and step-child relationship is pretty nightmarish—just picture Cinderella’s evil step-mother and step-sisters!
It’s no wonder that with such a widespread negative stereotype many people tend to shy away from being a step-parent.
But the truth is, acquiring a step-family doesn’t have to be a negative experience for anyone involved. Many adults and kids have very pleasant experiences and find themselves in a loving, supportive blended family.
It’s normal to be nervous about your new family, whether you’re a step-parent, foster parent, adopted parent, or even a biological parent. So, instead of focusing on the challenges that may come with this new role, let’s spend some time highlighting the joys that come with being a step-parent.
Developing Strong Bonds
Step-parents and stepchildren can have wonderful, loving bonds.
Naturally, you may be concerned about how you’ll be treated in this new family, but instead of focusing on that, focus on how you’ll treat your partner and their children. How you treat them will directly impact how they’ll treat you in return.
Yes, it takes time to develop bonds—especially if you come into the children’s lives when they’re slightly older. But, spending quality time with your stepchildren so that you can all get to know each other will go a long way towards establishing strong, healthy relationships.
There’s More Love to go Around
Remember the old adage, it takes a village to raise a child?
Well, as a step-parent, you have the amazing opportunity to bring more love and support into a family that may be struggling, particularly the children. A child can never have too many loving adults looking out for them.
You’ll also receive love! There’s nothing like a child’s love—they love totally and without restrictions.
See What Kind of a Parent Your Partner Is
If you and your partner intend to have kids of your own, being a step-parent also gives you a preview of your partner’s parenting style.
Plus, since they’re a parent already, your partner will be much more equipped to handle a lot of things—from changing diapers to handling a sick child and everything in between.
Parenting can be scary at times, and it will be great to have someone experienced in that area who you can count on for guidance.
You Bring a Fresh Perspective to the Table
Being the newcomer can seem daunting at first, but it can be good for the entire family to have someone with a fresh perspective join the mix.
Maybe your partner is having trouble with their adolescent children. You could be a great sounding board for listening to their troubles, giving advice, and positively influencing your partner’s parenting and relationship with their child.
Plus, once you’ve established a relationship with your stepchildren, they may appreciate coming to someone who isn’t their mom or dad for advice—that makes you the cool parent instead of the evil step-parent!
Just be sure to have a conversation with your partner about parental roles so that you don’t accidentally overstep any boundaries. Being on the same page as co-parents is crucial for effective parenting!
Everyone Involved Becomes More Resilient
When families separate, for whatever reason, it’s a very painful, emotionally-draining process for everyone involved.
But every cloud has a silver lining—the upside of this one is that blended families can become more resilient because they learn how to bounce back from that pain and make the best of a complicated situation.
As complicated as things may be, put in the effort to work through family problems instead of sweeping things under the rug. That just leads to resentment and a reluctance to change.
In the same vein, due to the complicated nature of a blended family, ones that are happy and well-adjusted also tend to be open-minded and accepting of others. Wouldn’t it be great to be a part of that?
You Get to be a Relationship Role Model
Depending on the situation, children of divorced or single parents may not get to see what a healthy marriage looks like. This is you and your partner’s chance to show them what a healthy marriage is—day in and day out, the good and the bad.
Because of your influence, your stepchildren will be able to use your marriage as a benchmark for their future relationships and will mirror the valuable lessons they’ve learned from you.
Being a Step-Parent: It Takes Time
As with all relationships, building bonds and letting people in takes time—especially when trying to fit into an existing family dynamic.
If you want this experience to change you and your new family for the better, it’s best not to force relationships, but to nurture them instead. Give it time and don’t push everyone to adjust at the same rate.
You have the opportunity to create positive experiences and teach important life lessons as a step-parent. Yes, it takes time, effort, and emotional involvement, but it will all be worth it in the end.